Shadow Vows in Marriage and Friendship with Elizabeth Èowyn Nelson, PhD
The word “vow” conjures images of two adults promising to love and cherish each other for better and for worse. Yet accompanying every spoken vow is an unspoken shadow vow that arises out of partly-conscious assumptions and needs, desires and fantasies. Both vows and shadow vows actively shape the persons’ lives because profound relationship is where activated complexes come home and individuation gets real.
